One is Inevitable, One is Optional

I’ve devoted a lot of work over the past three years to insisting on accountability from leaders in education and beyond. So, for balance, I’ve decided it’s time to share some of what I’ve learned about accountability from the side of the one who messes up…

Oh, by the way, I’m human — and I mess up. Let’s just clarify that right at the start.

My earliest, most personal memory came at about 20 years old, when I was living alone for the very first time in my life. I grew up among a big family (7 people in one house), until I ran away from a terrible situation in Massachusetts, at age…

It’s about language, and mutual liberation

Two boarding school students, Two very different roads

Mark Zuckerberg is the reason I do what I do.

Let me explain. In the 1990s, I attended Lawrence Academy, an elite boarding high school in Groton, Massachusetts. About seven years later, Mark Zuckerberg was a student at Phillips Exeter Academy, just 60 miles away in New Hampshire. The first time I left Lawrence Academy, I was 16 years old, devastated, and reeling from the insights into institutional corruption I’d witnessed. When Zuckerberg left Phillips Exeter, he was on his way to Harvard. …

You or someone you know may be affected.

White Male Privilege, or WMP, is now being recognized as a social disease by psychologists and experts in the field of public health. The Center for Social Diseases, CSD*, has released these guidelines for understanding, diagnosing and treating White Male Privilege.

How common is White Male Privilege?

White Male Privilege affects about 28% of the United States population, with higher concentrations in the urban epicenters of New York, Boston and Los Angeles.

How do I know if I have White Male Privilege?

Diagnosis occurs as distorted thinking that presents as a “cluster of symptoms”. The disease can affect both individuals…

We all carry a line from our ancestors into everything we might create in our own lives

As parents, our actions always send a message. Hosting a Red Party tells girls they can own and celebrate an essential part of themselves. Menstruation is both a taboo and a function of power. This is true, not only in the ability to re-create life, but in the heightened senses available to women throughout their cycles. It is clearly time to let our young women (those with a female body, regardless of gender identity) know that these senses are actually super-powers, to be claimed and revered.

As kids of all genders grow up, it is essential that we as parents give them an alternate message about bodies, sexuality and intimate relationships. The bulk of media will likely only send messages that would separate a young woman from her body and her power; that part is beyond our control. Yet, to come together in celebration this way is a far more compelling message, one that will be felt and lived on the emotional, physical and interpersonal levels.

1. With self-acceptance, we love better.

Self-love and self-compassion are strongly correlated to greater satisfaction in life via motivation, strength and improved relationships. Dr. Kristin Neff…

Vanessa Osage

Author, Speaker & Nonprofit Leader, Vanessa Osage, is healing corruption with truth and reform. Creator of The Justice CORPS Initiative at The Amends Project.

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